Support for my brother

My brother was just diagnosed with NHL 3 weeks ago. This is the first time anyone in our family has had cancer. I want to be there for him but I want to make sure I am doing things right. Is there any advice on what I can do to provide the most love and support as he goes through treatment? Thank you in advance.

Submitted by shana on Thu, 12/18/2008 - 21:24.

Chey,

I think this is a very good question, but one that only your brother can answer. If he's having a good day (assuming that he's already started treatment), have a conversation with him. Ask him how he wants to be supported. Does he just want someone around to "be" with him? Does he want to be alone? Does he want supportive notes, or someone to make him special meals? Does he want to talk about his treatments, or worries, or the future? Or does thinking about that anger/sadden him?

Everyone is different. My husband has been treated for HL for over two years now (just found out he relapsed), and it really depends on the day. Many times, he just wants someone around to "be" with him... not to entertain him, but to watch a movie or show with him. Depending on the treatment, life can suddenly change for patients and it's a lot to take. I find that it works best to ask my husband if he's interested in different things... he may say yes to that, but probably wouldn't ask on his own.

Best wishes to you, your brother and your family. Remember, you need support too; don't be afraid to ask for it.

Shana

Submitted by nancy on Fri, 01/09/2009 - 19:33.

Hi Chey. I am going through the exact same thing.

Shana, thanks for the post as well. This helps me get started on what I will need as I move forward.

nancy.

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